getting out the mental strut

strength in; acceleration, control, law of attraction, confidence, & giving back.

art by: collage of artists

95% of my friends/family are stuck in weekly loops. Struggling to meet ends meet and reaching a rapid decline in health, relationships, and finances. I’m not a guru or by any means want my life to be an example for the reader. But I can give my two cents on avoiding mental strut.

Firstly, find strength in identifying what you can/can’t control. I find that 90% of the things around me are out of my control. Other people’s emotions, other’s opinions, other’s politics, natural disasters are out of my control, news, and most importantly celebrity‘s lives. So why let any of those externalities into my temple of a mind? These externalities fuel bad emotions like greed and envy. Most aren’t capable of blocking this stuff out.

Now acceleration is putting all your effort into the other 10% that you can control. Which all the other things are mostly internal: how i feel, who i decide to be around, and what I decide to do today. Internally, idolize the process/journey, not the person, not the goal, not the outcome. The motto here is: “the universe didn’t have that plan for me”, and it helped me cope with regret and avoid the “what if’s” in my life. Deciding what to do starts with avoiding health addictions as it’ll attract unavoidable negative emotions.

As stated in my prev posts, my highest value is who I keep around me. Law of attraction. At the very least, I wanted to avoid shallow people who chase the lifestyle of others. Social media shows a clear enough representation of that. Contrarily, I wanted to attract hungry people who idolize the grind and wit of others. Then, at the end of the day, there are 2 types of people—ones who say you got lucky & ones who say you positioned yourself to max your luck. Run far away from the firsts (they don’t deserve an explanation), and always stay humble to the laters. Get the bad weeds out first, then acceleration will be easier. It’s harder to get bad weeds out the longer they’ve been growing.

Never be afraid to cut bad weeds aka loose baggage out of your journey. Most people don’t deserve an explanation. Confidence grows here. Continuing to do whatever hustle i’m doing, and believing it is the right path. Going from “I dont know how to do that” to “I can learn how to do that” or “I can find someone who can do that”. When confidence grows, you’ll know exactly how to “pick your battles”. And what I mean by this is mentally keeping yourself in check enough to exert energy towards things that really align with your goals. Which boils down to the 90/10 control rule and the law of attraction. Ex: do you want to be right or do you want to make money?

Now keep going, free from the opinions of others; the main driver of goals should always be to give back. How far you’ll make it is derived on how badly do you want to take care of others. Eventually reaching your goals will = Job’s not finished. & this is the sweet spot to stick around.

By the end of this, hopefully there’ll be some clearer points on what you should divert your energy towards. More energy = more strength. I learned that building strength in control identification, law of attraction/cutting weeds, confidence in myself, & giving back were the core pillars to my journey. GL.