inverse social outcome of goals

the unexpectedness of sacrifices; lion mindset = strength in surrounding

art by: ketaksetamin

It’s consensus by now that in order to achieve goals, sacrifices must be made. At the very tip of that point is socialness. This short post will be about the down sided outcomes of success socially & my theory on maintaining mental.

At the core, surrounding yourself with constant positive people will result in a better group. And by this, I mean people who are of “good” energy; non-envious (hard to find), non-flashy (doesn’t need constant validation and attention from social media), and non-judgmental (optimistic). It is almost impossible to find people of this caliber and the ones who do exists can only be found through sheer connection building. The truth is, 90% of the people around you now, will not be around you nor help you when you fall down. The real strength is realizing that it’s all about who’s around you rather than what’s around you.

The reason why this is important is because when you “do” reach your “success”, it’ll be magnitudes harder to weed out those who’ve come after. They will call you lucky, they will call you fake, and they will say you’ve changed. But the path is lonely, and by the time you’ve reached the top, only a handful of friends will be there with you. Be prepared for: change, friend’s switching up, haters/doubters, and even family switching up.

Focus on classifying into two groups for simplification

PVP’ers: are vultures, take info, one-up group members, don’t provide much

PVE’ers: are value providers, share info, support group members, provide much

How I put my goals into priority, I adopted another group of friends who are like-minded and better than me in whatever I intend to achieve. Whether it’s crypto investing, stock investing, cornering the real estate market, or really just getting “good” at any type of industry. To break it down even further, these type of friends need to have a solid balance of optimism and pessimism. Along with accepting individuality to do/make effort in their own research while providing transparent criticisms/takes and opinions.

Now pairing this with what some call “the fire at your butt” which in turn leads to a “knocking the monkey off your back”. The fire is an internal timer that pushes whatever you do to limits of locking in that are unquantifiable. It can be comparable to the “why” of doing what you’re doing; It can be debt, parents health issues, parents expectations, or personal health issues. The monkey is: what is holding you back from exploding forward? Most are unable to answer a simple question that decides easy determination and choices.

So in conclusion here:

“the fire at your butt” = the #1 motivator to push you out of the trench, then keeping your ass away from that fire as much as possible.

“knocking the monkey off your back” = the turning point at which you realize what is stopping you and what is driving you.

In many cases, I’ve been stuck on indecisiveness in goals because of “too many options”. It’s gotten to a point where I got filled with regret. But learning from this: Sometimes the best choice is the one you’re forced to make because then, regret will not be a result. So putting yourself in a position where you’re forced to accept the consequences will lead to a happier mind in my opinion.

This is what pushes me: Time is the enemy. Realize what’s going to happen if I continue to do the same thing I am doing now. If it’s bad, change it. Now the thing that pushes me EVEN further is making sure that I have a big enough safety net to take care of my family, mom, dad, and future kids. As time goes on, living gets expensive and complicated. Many will regret the wasted opportunities and time they’ve spent doing fuck all with fuck who. I don’t want to. At the end of tunnel, sacrifices will be made, and only the true friends will see it.